Falling in love is easy, it was rainbows and butterflies during the first time you met each other. And then after a couple of months being together you start to notice your partner’s weakness and negative behaviours, so you start to question the relationship. If you can fall in love, you can fall out of love, simply out of nowhere. In your relationship, you will find out things that makes you ask yourself why do I let myself to be in this situation. When that happens, suddenly you do not feel like putting effort anymore because your partner is distant, neglecting you, and showing their true colors. But what you can do before ending things with your partner is to be a considerate person, to always think outside the box, here are some of the things you can do to combat these differences in your relationship :
Discuss it together
Talk about the things that bother you, things your partner does that has been hurting you a lot, things that causes you pain. The longer you discuss it the longer you’re going to bear the pain. Talk about it in a soft tone, don’t nag and do not raise your voice tone. If your partner really does love you and care for you, he or she will listen to you wholeheartedly. Your discussion should find the roots of yout problems, why your partner behave the way he or she is. And if he or she still want to be with you he or she will swallow their pride stop doing things that bother you and hurt your feelings.
Distance yourself
Sometimes you need a little break from someone who constantly just hurting your feelings, you need to find your own area of safety and you need to reevaluate your worth, is this person deserve you? But you also need to think about your own faults and your mistakes, do not expect the other person to be your doormat. Give yourself a little break and spoil yourself a little, you don’t have to rotate around him.
Give it a break
Give you and your partner a break from everything. Give it three to five days to see if the relationship worth to be continued or if the spark is not there anymore. Give it a time to think about everything, the process can be painful – you will miss your partner, but it will be worth it. During the break, think about why you still want to be with this person, think about his or her goodness.
Or just simply break up with them
Set your boundaries, if your partner never takes your feelings into consideration and do things intentionally to hurt you, it’s already a toxic and abusive relationship, the only way to stop getting hurt if he or she does not want to change is to leave them, and be a better person for yourself.
